I think your best bet might be to use the search function! For instance, there was a thread on this board a short while ago titled “Sharing My Update” that might be similar to what you are looking for.
The sense I get from this community is that if you focus on taking care of yourself that your life will get better. It may or may not be with this partner, but it will get better, especially if you prioritize the health/safety of your kids and yourself. But there are a lot more people here who know far more than me!