Originally Posted by
J109 
Thank you I appreciate it. I need all the help because this is not easy. it’s been three weeks and I haven’t really left the bed except first week because I had to finish work. So in the holiday downtime I’m trying to go through everything. It’s something I wouldn’t wish an anyone. It happened so fast. I read so many threads of people who want to leave and it was hard as hell. Mine and anyone else who love an alcoholic is fear of what will happen. the worse happened,
Yes, the worst did happen, but I'm sure you have heard it said in those threads that there is no way to keep them "safe". Despite any effort, at the end of the day, they are grown men and women and they will do what they choose to do. We have to respect other people's choices.
One saying that I think is really profound is - You don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.