Does this count
So, one of the ways he tries to keep me codependent and control me is to get me to be his proxy since no one listens to him at this point. I rarely agree with the stuff he wants me to do and they know it’s really coming from him anyhow.
He badgered me at dinner (ruining another meal) to invite adult kids to watch church. They’ve made it clear he soured them on that with his moralizing, and they don’t consider themselves members of this religion anymore, so I refused to do this. So he comes back with “so you’re refusing to invite your children to church?” Recognizing he might pull this out in court someday, I said “I’m refusing to push it on the adult children. DS is a minor and I will invite him as usual.” Then I walked away.