Originally Posted by
pizza67 
Ok then...with those principles in mind, what would you do with a lengthy series of texts about how everyone in our family hates him and he is so lonely and I have no empathy and I’m just waiting out COVID to divorce him yada yada yada....
I could respond with kindness —>no I don’t want to reinforce this self-pity party
I could remind him this is a hell of his own creation—>release the kraken
I could ignore it—> it will probably follow me around and escalate
ive recommended he go to counseling many times and he blows it off and says he isn’t the issue.
Grey Rock his ass. I didn't know what it was at the time but I did it to my NMom and it worked like a charm. My dad was sick so I was trying to just get the information without all the drama.
Like this:
how everyone in our family hates him "No"
and he is so lonely and I have no empathy Don't respond to feelings or accusations
and I’m just waiting out COVID to divorce him yada yada yada.... "No" even if you are.
Or no response and if he asks you if you read it say ..umhum
In the grey rock method I think you're supposed to avoid eye contact and act busy then reply with boring things like yes or no.