There is a very, very important issue here that I haven’t seen mentioned...how is this affecting your children?
They’re learning that love can’t be trusted. They’re learning their mom can’t be trusted and that you can’t be trusted to protect them from her chaos. Do some research on growing up in an alcoholic home...maybe talk to them about Alateen meetings, even online. It’s a really, really big problem.
They know. And they may be pretending they’re fine, because it’s what you want to think. But they’re not. If you can’t bring yourself to extricate yourself from her chaos, please do it for them.