trailmix

There is no rush here you know. No you can't trust that she means what she says because she is not showing you that.

Logically, if someone says they want to fix things, they do. What has she shown you so far that has given you any indication she's sincere? It's so very important to look at actions not words. She may even have the best intentions right this minute, but that doesn't mean anything does it? It needs action.

You know the saying that trust is earned, well it's a saying because it is true. What has she shown you that has earned your trust? Nothing to this point, just words.

The only way you will be able to trust here is through her example of being trustworthy, there is no shortcut, no quick fix. Your boundaries have been broken and trampled on. If you go forward with this now, it's going to get messy. She's probably not relationship material right now, aside from anything else. You would be jumping in to really stormy waters trying to repair this very damaged relationship and her trying to focus on her recovery.

Aside from not trusting her, do you still resent the cheating? What support do you have? How have you dealt with that? You will need to take care of your own feelings about all of this, she can't do that for you, she can reassure you and eventually show you she is trustworthy, but you are the one that will have to move past it.