JW,
You say you are "very much in love with her but can't trust her at all".
The foundation of a healthy relationship is mutual trust, respect, love and admiration.
Although drunkiness leads to impaired decision making and poor choices, your wife
is showing through her actions she has no respect for you or the vows she took.
I would call a lawyer & get out. If she decides to become sober and work a program
and behave like someone who is deserving of your loyalty, you can always get
back together, but that seems unlikely. Sorry you are going through this.