I needed to hear this. as a girlfriend who constantly wants to fix her loved one's problems, i know that I am not the answer. any hand-holding I do at this point is damaging and enabling. i'm contemplating walking away from this relationship. I love him but like you said, the only way for him to be free from his addiction is for him to free himself. and the only way I can help him is to let him find his own way. thank you for these words.