Thanks for sharing your story, MyLife. The alcoholic in my life is my boyfriend of 23 years. It's hard enough coping with an alcoholic partner. I can't imagine the pain involved with having an alcoholic child. My heart goes out to you. I understand that you can't easily attend Alanon meetings. While it's not the same as face to face meetings, I find SoberRecovery every bit as valuable as Alanon meetings.
Another thing I've found immensely helpful was reading Melody Beatty's books "Codependent No More" and "The Language of Letting Go." Also, the AA Big Book is helpful, too, in that it can help you better understand the hold that alcohol and/or drugs have over our addicts.
So glad you found this forum.