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Old 07-23-2020, 08:53 PM
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LumenandNyx
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In addition to counseling, I think that (both of you) working on your communication skills would be immensely helpful.

How aware is he of your paranoia? Do you two discuss it?
How aware is he that you don't trust him? Do you two discuss it?
How aware are you of what he's going through on a daily basis? Do you two discuss it?
How aware are you of the way he feels physically? Emotionally? Mentally? Do you two discuss it?
How aware are BOTH OF YOU of each other's fears? Do you discuss them with each other?

Communication sounds easy, but getting to the heart of stuff can feel like crawling up a mountain sometimes. Honest and open communication takes patience and skills. And then it takes some more patience. What one person says is not always what another person hears. Sometimes all we can do is say our piece as simply and as eloquently as possible, and then step back and wait to be asked for clarification.

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