For me, it meant taking a good look at my way of looking at things and changing them. While I was using my thinking had become really skewed. I first had to tolerate undergoing the healing process as my mind psychically healed. After that, I had to learn to stop using maladaptive behaviors and replace them with adaptive coping skills. It was a long painful process and required lots of work. I relied mainly on the wisdom of this board to guide me. Even over 7 years out I still have to check myself less I backslide.