we expect more of the alcoholic than a .....I forget the rest. It was a quote from an Alanon book. Wemota.... I memorized the phrase but it’s been 4 years since I lived with alcoholism. I feel like I am coming out the other side a happier and more balanced person. I did expect more than he could deliver. I couldn’t be loved and cared for. My feelings and needs were not important. I think the rest of the phrase could have been .... a sick individual is capable of.