Be, I am really sorry to hear what your wife said to you. I’m not sure what she means by your behaviors. I know I was more defensive while drinking and less apt to speak my mind. We spent all our adult lives drinking so part of our brain probably still needs to mature. Not sure I stated that very well, but hopefully you get my point. At the end of the day you have to be yourself, and if that isn’t good enough then there isn’t much we can do.