Oh, and because I have been asked this....
M is 46 years old. He divorced his first wife 8 years ago, two kids he got full custody of.....
What I don't get is why he didn't tell me this upfront. I mean, on our first date he asked, how long have you been divorced? I said, well, I am technically just separated, started the divorce process but legally I am married. And that is when he said he had been divorced 8 years....at that point in time it would have been perfectly natural to say, yeah, I am too but she lives out of state, we need to resolve our situation, etc.
Ugh....