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Old 04-18-2020, 09:57 PM
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FeelingGreat
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Hi, sorry for your situation. Of course you're not crazy, but what made you think you were? Has he implied you're imagining everything and he's really a sober citizen?

If you choose to stay, say another 8 years, you're probably going to need support for yourself as living in a loveless marriage with an A is not an easy path and it will wear you down. Al-anon is for the family and friends of As and has been a life-saver for many people on this forum.

You don't say whether you work or not. I suggest you start preparing for an exit at a time of your own choosing, remembering that alcoholism is usually progressing and can go from bearable to 'get out now' very quickly.

Preparation would be getting a fund of your own together, quietly. You might want to seek some legal advice about where you'd stand. Put together copies of important documents. Keep a diary of anything relevant - credit card statements (if that's where be buys it), the fact that he was passed out on x date, photos, hiding places etc.

None of the above means you leave before you want to, but will be useful if you need to.

I hope it's been helpful for you to post here, and I know you'll get some useful feedback from others. Good luck.
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