Anger can tell me a lot. When I give it space to be expressed, heard, released, then I also allow space to first accept it, then to allow it transformation.
5 things that help me:
Getting an Al-Anon sponsor. This is possible via phone, etc.
Prayer. Keeping it simple allows Great Spirit more room to guide me. "Help!". "Thank you." are powerful prayers, done consistently throughout each day.
Allowing self-kindness. Be gentle with self.
Meditation. Asking others if they meditate and what their practice is like. Reaching out further, if needed, to see who has strong meditation practices/techniques. This is like finding business or athletic mentors or coaches. A single conversation with someone who has great strengths can be life changing.
Allow fun. That simple. Easy. As I continue to allow fun, the rest keeps falling into place. My idea/thought/experiences of fun keeps expanding in wonderful ways.
Namaste