Knitwit
How are you now? I know this was from January, but I came today to read through posts and get some clarity with my own situation.
Wow, so much of what you read rings true for me as well. My husband also buys pills. Luckily, I haven't given him any access to my bank account, but he has not taken care of his part of bills very often and I have loaned him money. I've only recently realized that it probably all goes to pills...when I truly thought I was helping him. When you said that it was a red flag that you should have noticed...I know just how you feel! But, we want to believe the best in those we love.
I have also thought about asking my husband to take a drug test if he wants to prove that he has quit. But, I don't think he will do it, and I don't really want to live in a relationship like that. So, what do we do? I really can't tell if he is using or not. I don't know if I've ever known him not using.
I also don't know what to tell mutual friends or family.
I am also very sad.
I hope to hear from you about your current situation.