Originally Posted by
JamieLee 
For example, if their mind is delusional then how can you do it?
You don't.
You didn't Cause it, can't Control it and can't Cure it (the 3 c's)
Originally Posted by
JamieLee My husband doesn't have friends... so I don't know who is going to tell him to pull his head from down under, I can't or I'm evil, my family can't and his family won't (or they believe his fantasy).
The only person that controls him is him.
Not you, not his family or yours or an old friend or someone at rehab. Just him.
Just like no one can control you.
And why would you want to control someone else anyway?
He is who he is and who he is right now is a drinking alcoholic. You can either accept that or not but if you have a boundary, that's for you, not for him. He doesn't have a problem with his drinking, you do.
I have zero tolerance for anyone being drunk around me or drinking in my home. Ok that's the boundary. Now, what are you doing when the boundary is ignored? You can't change him, so it's up to you, if he comes home drunk you leave if he won't (or lock yourself in a room or whatever you choose).
Boundaries can't be confused with "rules". You can't make rules for him but you can make boundaries for yourself.
Do you mind if I ask why you stay?