For example the whole 'drink to unwind' thing... What are you unwinding from? Why do you feel the need to mess with your body and mind in order to ' unwind'?
My husband recently asked me why I had overindulged one evening. Defensively, and without thinking, I said it was because drinking made me happy. So he said that meant I was otherwise unhappy in/with my life. Which of course I was, but just hadn't acknowledged. I just thought everyone drank to be happy! How sad...