Originally Posted by
sortofhomecomin 
For me, I was sex abused by both parents so it's difficult to see why it is that I am the one that should be making amends. I suspect that the abuse is the deeper level cause of me being psychologically abused in the workplace, and also my alcoholism, but Steps 4 to 7 are really not something that I can go along with.
Do any AA members have input on this?
Thank you for sharing. Making amends was something I struggled with for those reasons. I couldn’t get myself to look at my fault in everything that was detrimental in my life. I carried those thoughts on my shoulders when I haven’t thought about them or had put them aside. I felt like I was looking for things wrong with me for the sake of AA. it really weighed on me. Finally, for myself, accepting the fact that my sobriety is not determined by something that was beyond my control. But understanding and accepting a reality that is part of my life. I feel amends can be made through accepting my own character defects without character assassination.