AB
I was thinking about what you said above about understanding.
I think there is a big difference between understanding & acceptance.
By the time we end up posting our story here on SR we have much understanding. For whatever period of time, we have lived with & first hand experienced the crazy life of being with an addict. So we know the drill.
We have probably read online about addiction & thereby found SR. We read here on SR. We finally get the nerve up to post details of our story. We get much needed advice from others with vast experience.
So by the time we get to this point we pretty much understand what we are dealing with.
For me the more difficult part is / was acceptance of exactly what I understood. Accepting the reality of my situation. Even though I knew what the deal was / is its still difficult to accept it.
I think at this point I have accepted what I have come to understand. Having said that I still do at times struggle with it. Its not easy to find acceptance.