Thank you so much. This is such an amazing place. I’m glad I finally decided to join. I will post more later. In the meantime...
I completely agree and understand that those who have been hurt may lash out and/or be tired of the cycle.
Regardless, berating a partner is simply unconscionable, IMO. If you can’t deal, leave. No need to kick someone when they’re down. That wreaks of control issues and setting someone up for failure so the controlling party can say, “I told you so.”.
OP, stand strong and know so many are here for you. You matter. You are worthy. We care. I care.