Hi Sohard
My dad and I used to drink together too - not to excess - but while one or two would be more than enough for him, my Beast was awakened. When I could, as soon as I could, I'd go back to drinking round the clock
I don't think he really understands why I'm not drinking, but he did get a 'no thanks'. I think it took a while, but he's ok with it now.
I'm all for being s nice guy - I'm even ok with people pleasing sometimes - but not when it might mean my destruction.
Use an excuse if you'd rather not open the whole alcoholic issue right now, but say no.
D