Tigermama

I also have a son in rehab. He's 24. Thought he was gonna be like me up till the middle of his Senior Year of high school. He always did his homework without being told, was on the honor roll, even had the kitchen clean when I got home from work. He started to change the middle of his Senior Year and I haven't seen that son since. He almost didn't graduate on time because he missed a final but, was given another chance to take the missed exam & barely passed the class & did graduate. He's 24 & hasn't accomplished much since. He went to college but, didn't last a semester. His thing is hallucinations. He started out doing "Molly" & "Spike," synthetic drugs. He's been in jail twice and has a felony on his record now. He's in rehab now. His 28 days are up but, the halfway house isn't ready for him yet. It only took a few weeks after I told him he wasn't welcome back home till he went to rehab for him to end up in jail. A social worker who intervenes for the prisoners arranged for the rehab. I'm glad they won't let him come home and are insisting on keeping him in the rehab until the halfway house is ready for him. I know I told him rehab before I was letting him come home but, I know a month in jail and a month in rehab is not enough for anything to change. And, he brought a lot of grief to my home that I've seen in many of the posts on this site. I don't want that kind of grief again. I think more is needed before he should come home and apparently so do his counselors at the rehab and/or his probation officer. I have had conversations with him on the phone and a family visit where I brought 2 other relatives with me. He is creeped out by the whole halfway house thing and you kinda can't blame him. Being in a house with a bunch of other addicts when he's fresh out of rehab, I can totally understand his reservations. Though, I did not tell him that. But, honestly, he never stayed home with me and his brother for anymore than a day or two without leaving again. He would probably just do the same thing again and that didn't work last time. Towards the end, he brought a lot of chaos to his brother & I & his brother's girlfriend during those short visits. If the professionals and civil workers who are educated and/or familiar with this stuff don't think he's ready, it only confirms my suspicions. Luckily I have his younger brother here who just graduated high school this past summer to help me stick to my guns and not allow his brother to walk all over me. But, really, his younger brother should be concentrating on better things at this point instead of safeguarding mom from his big brother. Ugh.