Originally Posted by
Sam31p 
What I need in my life because of my health problems is just complete stability, no more distressing things, no more upset, crisis or impossible situations as I simply don't have the mental capacity or capability of dealing with those sorts of happenings without any support.
If I can achieve that then the drinking and gambling just won't be a part of my life anymore.
Sorry bud this sounds like your addiction talking to me. Working on that should be your priority. If you need several drinks to get something important done (like taking the dog to the vet) then you have an addiction.
I deal with mental health issues too - including anxiety - and I see now that booze has been a lifelong crutch, with anxiety being the excuse to use.