you have options - you just don't like them.
it is VITAL that you shut down his access to your funds! he willingly and deliberately cleaned out your accounts! he will do it again in a heartbeat because he DOES NOT CARE.
your children will not hate you. they depend on you to do what is right by them, to keep them safe, away from bad people, in a home that is drug and addict free. he interacts with them when it suits him. he treats you like garbage. that is no way to live.
you mentioned your parents. are they close?
your husband is engaged in highly illegal activities and if you do not take steps to protect yourself and your children, things will get much much worse.