What about a little perspective focus zjw?
Where would you, and your family be now, if you hadn't quit drinking so many years ago and your alcoholism continued to progress?
You are a success story no matter what the economic situation is now. You are able to be a present father and husband, and you've gotten a business going against a tough economic downturn.
Maybe it is time to have that tough discussion with your wife, family, and in-laws that you need to reduce your overhead or risk relapse. Not easy, but perhaps if they really know your struggles, you can make some progress to balance your life a bit more.