This has turned into a bit of an upsetting thread.
Dee or Scott, would you mind deleting it?
These forums and the threads contained on them are but a microcosm of the real world. Life outside these forums includes experiences that can be upsetting. Recovery is about learning to handle those experiences in a healthy manner. This thread can be seen as a gift or blessing when viewed for the growth potential and learning opportunity it presents in handling upsetting things.
I spent far too many years hitting the delete button (AKA bottles of alcohol) in my efforts at avoiding upsetting things. In recovery, I have learned the delete button is a band-aid, not a solution.