Originally Posted by
trailmix 
Anvilhead, who posted above, made a really good post about that hesitancy by an addict to commit to a relationship, this was posted in a thread in the Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum:
Remember, he's not drugging at you, he's just drugging, it's what addicts do.
Thanks for this. It makes sense. I get the sense that he really wants to commit, yes, but he's just terrified. He said he's possibly making the biggest mistake in his life right now, but that he really needs to focus on himself before he goes down.