I had another thought...you said he’s been reprimanded at work, blew off a group dinner and biffed a presentation, right?
I suspect your reputation at that workplace is excellent. So if you’re back together, he may think that might give him some protection by proxy.
Honestly, everything about this benefits him with no apparent thought about you. He wouldn’t even have to focus on your child during visits anymore, because you’re there.
It sounds like it’s past time for some major boundaries, yes? No more joining his family for holidays, he gets the visits with your son that are court required and that’s it, you correspond only in regards to your child.
The problem with avoiding saying things that people don’t want to hear is that they start to conclude we’ll go along with
anything.
Sending you strength and a hug...
P.S. He’s giving you crap about wanting winter clothes but thinks you’ll go back to him?
