Hi,
I was the drinker in my house, while my husband and son were the ones who joined AA. I didn't promise not to drink, nor did I promise to throw out or hide my alcohol. I was and am an alcoholic. And, they never, ever asked me to discard, hide or not drink .. maybe because they knew it was pointless. Being alcoholics themselves.
So, I continued on my drunk path for 7 more years. Yes, that's how long I took for me to get into the rooms of AA. Alone most nights (happily --no one bugging me that I was drinking). They were off ....
My sober hubby & son put themselves & their Recovery first. HOW? By attending meetings, being of service, speaking when asked, getting Committments at meetings, going to Conventions, getting Sponsee's, enjoying LIFE ..... BBQ s, picnics, fundraisers ... fun events with their new friends in the "Program". Yes, they formed a new life. Everything changed. Because that's what had to happen for us.
That was then .....