Originally Posted by
res01 
My spouse has been drinking forever and he just recently (in the last 6 months) started smoking pot too. How long should I wait for him to actually attend a meeting or actually stop drinking? He has stopped smoking pot, at least for the last few days.
Hey there- you know I've been in this situation and my RABF never did quit smoking weed and it ended up ruining pretty much everything. I waited 5 years, wouldn't want you to wait as long as I did, because that's pretty much ruined me.
I'd love to put a big smiley face on here for you and say that sounds great that he's stopped smoking, but the reality is it ain't gonna last, and you will be sniffing his clothes for the next few years.
Also, I personally do not believe that being drunk is an excuse for being abusive. Abuse is abuse, alcohol is alcohol.
I wish you clarity.
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