No idea what to do
My spouse has been drinking forever and he just recently (in the last 6 months) started smoking pot too. He is a heavy drinker and used to stop completely for a few weeks or months at a time and now cannot do that. He told me he has a problem and is planning to join AA. This is good news but at the same time we are coming out of a three week period where he has been verbally abusive every single day. I'm at my limit. These rages of his have happened for years but they were limited to one per year or even less. I'm not feeling too safe at the moment but he's been a bit better since he told me he had decided to join AA. He hasn't actually done anything like go to a meeting or even find one so I don't know what to think. I'm having him sleep in the guest room right now and, finally, I'm sleeping a little better. How long should I wait for him to actually attend a meeting or actually stop drinking? He has stopped smoking pot, at least for the last few days.