Everyone here in this forum has experienced heartache from an addict or alcoholic we love/loved.

I’m a man but I, too was involved in a very toxic relationship. My ex girlfriend could be a poster child of how alcohol ruins lives.

We share so many common experiences. So no one is intentionally judging you. Trust me, your situation belongs to you — but it isn’t unique. We’ve all been there.

When I first came here... I needed ALL suggestions. All viewpoints. And I also needed a bit of “tough love” or a reality check.

It’s important, especially since you have children. Toxic environments where alcohol and addiction are the primary focus 24/7 completely damages children and disrupts their emotional well-being. I’m not blaming, I’m just stating the truth. Ask any adult who grew up in an alcoholic home... it’s a nightmare for them no matter how much you try to hide and protect.