Originally Posted by
Ctenhet 
he's helping me learn the big book so I'll better understand what he's going through.
This kind of says it all. It's all about HIM and what HE'S going through. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't see much concern about YOU (or anyone else, for that matter) and what YOU or THEY are going through.
As I understand it, the Big Book is for the ALCOHOLIC to learn, so
he'll better understand what he's going through. It's not something for him to "teach" you so he can continue to steamroll through your life, b/c after all he's got PROBLEMS and so that gives him a free pass...
I'd say that putting that "R" before BF is almost certainly inaccurate.