Ctenhet,
Thank you for your share, I know if must of taken a lot of courage for you to say all of that. The man you fell in love with is not a person who shares the same love back. He has gone back to his EX to many times. Every time staying until he gets kicked out. Then he calls you. Tugs on your heart strings to come rescue him. He is just manipulating you to get what he wants. This is not the type of person you want to spend your energy on. It will make you sick and tired.
You need to move on with your life, I'm glad that your going to AL-Anon. It can help. Get the book Co-dependent no more like several people are saying. It will help you. You are stronger then you realize and can get past this. You don't need this mess in your life right now. You need to focus on you and let him focus on him. We are here for you. Keep being strong and have a good day.