Yeah, I have him on monitoring during the visits for the court order. I think it’s right that I won’t have any real way of establishing sobriety and it’s kind of a fools errand. It’s a little disingenuous of me to insist on the six months of sobriety restarting because I know it won’t happen, but for me the value is in delaying the overnights. by the way our current order is written, since I can’t prove constant sobriety or not, it’s sort of turns out to be a “no alcohol related incidents” order, because the incidents are the thing that break the alleged chain of sobriety.

in any event, no. I don’t think forcing him on the people who are actually trying to better themselves is going to help anyone. Probably will just give him access to even more women in a vulnerable position he can lie to you when trying to line up the next girlfriend after this one dumps him.