Thank you all for your support and kind words. I have been coming to these boards for a bit (for support with my marriage mostly) and have not talked much about my daughter. For some reason it hurts me so much more to admit that she is an addict and alcoholic than to deal with my AH.
I have been to Alanon and a few open AA and NA meetings. I came from a family of addicts/alcoholics so this is not a new game for me. I have been a pawn in this for so so long. It is only recently that I learned that I can detach from them with love and heal my own soul.