Originally Posted by
woodlandlost 
My daughter loves her mom, and also wants to be with her...she is stoic about it all.
That doesn't surprise me at all.. Children who grow up in a household with an alcoholic develop defenses, it's inevitable.
Now, some of those come in really handy in life, some of them not so much.
Her Mother, at this point, can't be trusted for anything other than short visits with you or someone else present. Isn't thinking about changing the custody agreement really premature?
I'm just going to come out and ask this, you don't need to answer, of course, is this about your Daughter or is this about you wanting to put your family back together as one unit?