Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
it could do him good if someone reached out to him. it could show him someone cares about his well being.
youre advise
because of concern for TOm's well being and that work was irrelevant.
is spot on.
Agreed. Plenty of people tried to talk to me and to say I didn't listen would be such an understatement there is no sufficient word. I finally quit when I was done - and now, I remember a lot of people along the way, even way back, who tried to talk to me just this way.
I believe the sum total can indeed hit us, one conversation can be the tipping point, we just don't know....but yes, trying to talk to someone because it is truly life at stake (no matter how "not as bad as" or such) when we drink. Then, tho, we have to let it go. I'm not in the outcome business, as the saying goes, and can only be available and open to anyone who needs help and WANTS it, once I've made the overture.
I'd rather "annoy" someone (or worse) who needs to quit than be one more person who doesn't say anything.