Welcome Jenlou and Buddy
Hey, a new yorker (buddy).
FYI there are a lot of meetings around here (NY). I live out on Long Island and haven't had problems finding help from Alanon. If you need help locating a meeting let me know.
My suggetion to both of you is to try AlAnon. I don't know what happened in my case but one month after I started to 'take care of myself' by going to alanon and focusing on my children (5 & 8)and myself rather than my drinking husband, he 'hit rock bottom'. It was very scarey but it was worth it.
He hasn't had a drink since 3/18/03 and is really working at getting better. Prior to that he would not admit he had a problem no matter how hard I begged and pleaded for him to get help and stop drinking.
I was making myself crazy worrying about him and walking around on egg shells. Alanon helped me start to achieve some peace. I am stilling going (once a week) now that he is in recovery just because I feel that in some way, my decision to start Alanon helped change our lives and I want to keep on the right track.
Welcome again and take care of yourselves!!!!!