Hi Rose,
Ahhh, the money issue. It never goes away, even when they're not drinking or using! I hope your husband is more open to discussing the money stuff than mine was. When he was still using, he was always too guilty to discuss the finances with me, no matter how much I asked. So, I was stuck just giving him his allowance and hoping he used it to get high instead of coming to me for more money.
I hope it works out for you. Maybe you can tell him he has to figure out how to buy his beer with his allowance, b/c he's only going to get a certain amount of money each week, and once it's gone there's no more money for him to get unless you take it from a bill payment??? Like I said, this is a touchy subject and it's hard trying not to control them with the money when you're the one handling all the finances.
You're doing great by the way - hang in there!
Hugs,
JG