Originally Posted by
Glenjo99 
Yes Im trying to do that this week, take my foot off the pedal and relax about recovery. Not easy but I'm trying. Helps to hear that you experience this too, makes me feel human.
Less trying more doing?
It's hard to change patterns. Tough, tough, tough. You of all people know this.
So, a year or so ago you weren't familiar with co-dependency and you weren't in the throes of a quest to untangle yourself from a relationship with an alcoholic. You took steps. Posted here, did research, read books, listened to podcasts etc.
You learned.
Why can you not apply that same tenacity (in small steps) to loosening up a bit?
Put that burden down for a while. Focus on fun. Yes, it might just be that you are going to have to apply the same steps to loosening up and living and enjoying your life as you did to unravelling codependency and attachment to the alcoholic.
You know, you still sound depressed.