Thanks Gabe,
I called someone and feel much better. I can see that I was trying to control him with money. That it is unreasonable to not give him any allowance. I have decided to pray for the willingness to accept that my husband is where he needs to be right now. To accept that we have only one income and to sit down with him to decide how we will manage the one income. This might mean that I have to control my spending (hint - this is the real issue for me, I don't want to do this) and adjust to the one income. I do still love this person and want him in my life today. I will treat him with more respect. Please pray for me.