Money is a touchy issue
with couples even when alcohol isn't involved. I think the answer to your question falls under the heading of "boundries". You have to have some clear relationship with your husband about money and where it goes. Can you separate your finances? In my opinion, you can't tell him how to spend his money, but you certainly have the right to control how your money is spent. Mind you, this all comes from someone who has never considered everything "ours" in a relationship...no matter how good the relationship was. I think you just need to be honest with him about how you feel. I hope that you can work something out.
Peace,
Gabe