Originally Posted by
Erza 
So sometimes it crosses my mind that it is me just not wanting him to have fun or trying to control him. How do I break those thoughts?
By confronting the thoughts with reality.
You mention the drinking has "just" been on weekends since January but you also mentioned he lost his job for the 3rd time in April. Was that not drinking related?
In effect, if he wants to drink and you say - no you can't or no you shouldn't, well that is controlling. He is saying I want to do this and you are saying no you can't.
The truth is, yes he can and he just did. You have a problem with his drinking, he doesn't.
Does that make logical sense? To leave your family and child to go off to a motel to drink? Well no, not to someone who isn't an alcoholic. But he is and it does make sense to him.
You didn't Cause it, can't Control it and cannot Cure it.
This relationship has a HUGE impasse. You two could stay together and war it out for years, but why would you do that to yourself (and your child)?