Erza…….When alcoholism becomes a part of the relationship...ass the usual "rules" that work in a normal healthy relationship are turned topsy-turvy......all turned on it's head. Trying to apply the old rules can make you feel confused...…
It would help for you to really study and learn all you can about the nature of alcoholism and what to expect.....
There is sooo much to know.
Knowledge is power.
for starters....I am giving you the following link to our extensive library of over 100 excellent articles. (They are contained in the "stickies"---at the top of main page--above the threads)….
These articles are about alcoholism and the effects on the loved ones.
I am giving you a quick link, for your convenience....
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...c-reading.html (Classic Reading)
***If you have not read the most recommended book, on this site....I suggest that you might read "Co-dependent No More"......it is an easy read and I think you will find a lot that will resonate with you, right now.....
You can get it ...or a used copy....on amazon.com.....or, the local library....