Originally Posted by
righttheship 
Just a quick note to say how much I appreciated this thread. The guilt is overwhelming at times. My AH is alone, white-knuckling sobriety. I keep thinking that there's things I could do to help him. But reading these posts helps me to remember that I need to stay in my lane and get out of AH's way.
Isn't it tough!
You see this person you care for struggling and KNOW you could make their life more bearable. That is 100 percent true, even from a physical living area point of view.
The thing is, that's not the help they truly need. You could clean their apartment or house, take out the trash, put healthy food in the fridge and cook them a meal every night, all that does is pretty up the picture.
It's very sad but maybe thinking about it that way will help a bit. The help they need is something you cannot provide. An alternative to white knuckling it is going to AA, his choice.
So while it might seem like you are not doing anything you are, as you mentioned getting out of his way.