This time around I think you may do well to add a mental health component to your recovery. From your post I suspect that you may be struggling with depression and that the empty nest has brought on feelings that seem unbearable. You might be using alcohol (at least in part) to get relief from the depression. I think AA is great but they are not there to address mental health issues.
There is a tremendous amount the mental health community can do to relieve depression, so there is very good reason to be hopeful. Ask for an evaluation. Take care and all the best to you