Since you asked for pre-emptive tough love in a backhanded, after the fact way last time, here's some:
Being not worried, seemingly cavalier, about a wedding seems foolish and risky to me. In short, I'll say what I always do: DONT GO. If you insist - CHOOSE- to go, make a plan. See the many comments on this for ideas if you need them.
"Safe zones" and such can be good....and also imply or be an underlying assumption that anyone or anything other than us can keep us choosing not to drink.
Put the word choice in place of any quibbling words.
It ain't about making money, or filling time or holes or .... you need a plan and a program and it sure doesn't seem like Annie Grace is fitting the bill.
Take or leave what I'm saying, but know that I see you as a smart person who is continuing to deflect and deceive yourself about being done with this insanity we all have, and getting on the road to a very different life.